The other day, I had yet another go-around with that unseemly boy at work. I sort of feel bad for picking on him, but that's how it is. He said a few things that got me upset, and he noticed. He asked if I was mad at him and I told him I wasn't, but I told him this: I plan on marrying a certain kind of guy some day, and he just keeps reminding me that those guys are few and far between. He laughed and made a joke, and I laughed along; there really wasn't any point in staying upset about it.
This incident did get me to thinking, though: while growing up, little girls in Primary and Young Women are continuously told that when we grow up and get married, our husbands will be so glad that we worked so hard to uphold good standards. They say that keeping our virtue will be a huge blessing in our future marriages. These are the things that keep me going on the rough days. Sometimes it seems that the only available men are jerks with low standards. However, I know that somewhere out there, amidst the idiots, imbeciles, and downright scum, there is a genuinely good guy. He's not perfect, but he's good.
What I'm wondering is this: what did the boys hear when they were growing up? Did someone tell them how deeply the women they will marry will appreciate their upholding of good standards? Were they taught that in their adulthood, righteous women will be desperate for a worthy priesthood holder who still adheres to the principles taught in the For the Strength of Youth pamphlet? Did some wise teacher warn them that the "good guys" will be few and far between by the time they reach the age to marry? I certainly hope so.
I also wonder this: while the good, single girls of the world sit around and wonder where the good guys are, do the good, single boys of the world ask the same question? Are there guys out there that feel like the world is full of girls who claim to have strong testimonies, but parade around in immodest clothing and make out with a new guy every night? I know that my lack of experience means I know next to nothing about guys, but it seems that this would be something that good guys who seriously want to find a wife think about. I have to believe that the kind of man I want to marry is out there, desperately seeking the kind of girl I am.
Just a wondering I had. I'll leave you with a song, which I'm starting to enjoy doing on these posts.
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